like when clinton asked rabin to shake arafat's hand before meeting the press outside when yitzhak famously bunched up his face and through his teeth spat, "outside..."
it's like that: mutterings, disapprovals, sighs, exasperation, desperation, sarcasm, plain insults but careful that nothing is really claimed as to be exposed as vitriol or nonsense or bitterness in front of the kids - but just hung out there like the neighbour's drawers.
and it all works because the particles of power have piled so that a mis-step is all that's needed for total annihilation.
sad and even more so in the name of love or even of love lost.
